BCP
Boundary Check Protocol
Assess whether a request or situation violates your personal boundaries.
Estimated time: 30 seconds
Protocol Steps
- 1
Notice: Is there pressure to comply?
~5s - 2
Check: Does this align with my stated values?
~10s - 3
Ask: Would I advise a friend to do this?
~10s - 4
Respond: "I need time to consider this."
~5s
When to Use
- When feeling pressured to make quick decisions
- When someone makes you feel guilty for saying no
- When a request feels uncomfortable but you can't articulate why
Common Failure Modes
- Making exceptions for "important" relationships
- Believing that good people always say yes
- Confusing boundary-setting with being difficult